The role of the mediator is to help parties reach a solution to their problem and to arrive at an outcome that both parties are happy to accept. Mediators avoid taking sides, making judgements or giving guidance. They are simply responsible for developing effective communications and building consensus between the parties. The focus of a mediation meeting is to reach a common sense settlement agreeable to both parties in a case.
For a mediator to be successful he or she must possess a wide range of skills. One of the most important, but perhaps least appreciated, is the ability to actively listen to what a party is saying and to note what the party is not saying. All too often we hear what we expect someone to say rather than what is actually said. It is a fundamental principle that mediators must not prejudge the case nor impose their own prejudices on the parties. Furthermore, a mediator has to be able to tune into “where the speaker is coming from” and read the “sub text” or hidden messages given out by the parties.
Five Basic Methods for Resolving Conflict
METHODS |
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN USED:
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APPROPRIATE T0 USE WHEN:
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INAPPROPRIATE T0 USE WHEN:
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DENIAL OR WITHDRAWL |
Person tries to solve problem by denying its existence. Results in win/lose. |
Issue is relatively unimportant; timing is wrong; cooling off period needed; short-term use. |
Issue is important; when issue will not disappear, but will build. |
SUPPRESSION OR SMOOTHING OVER |
Differences are played down; surface harmony exists. Results in win/lose forms of resentment, defensiveness, and possible sabotage of issue remains suppressed. |
Same as above, also when preservation of relationship is more important at the moment |
Reluctance to deal with conflict leads to evasion of an important issue; when others are ready and willing to deal with issue. |
POWER OR DOMINANCE |
One’s authority, position, majority rule, or a persuasive minority settles the conflict. Results in win/lose if the dominated party sees no hope for self. |
When power comes with position of authority; when this method has been agreed upon. |
Losers have no way to express needs; could result in future disruptions. |
COMPRISE OR NEGOTIATION |
Each party gives up something in order to meet midway. results in win/lose if “middle of the road” position ignores the real diversity of the issue |
Both parties have enough leeway to give; resources are limited; when win/lose stance is undesirable. |
Original inflated position is unrealistic: solution is watered down to be effective: commitment is doubted by parties involved. |
COLLABORATION |
Abilities, values, and expertise of all are recognised; each person’s position is clear but emphasis is on group solution. Results in win/win for all. |
Time is available to complete the process; parties are committed & trained in use of process. |
The conditions of time, abilities, and commitment are not present. |
Who will benefit from the course?
This course is of value to professionals and managers in organisations, wishing to introduce mediation to handle workplace conflict swiftly and cost effectively and who handle the following:
- Hostile negotiators
- Conflict with colleagues and other departments
- Aggressive and hostile behaviour from senior colleagues and management
- Defensive and angry reactions from team members
- Continual negativity from colleagues and project team
Delegates will learn how to:
- Gain a full understanding of mediation and other forms of conflict resolution
- Use mediation to resolve workplace conflict
- Prepare effectively for a mediation
- What process to follow
- Deal with conflict in the mediation itself
- Handle stalemate situations
- When and how to conclude a mediation meeting
Related information
- Training course manuals – for sale
- Mediators’ Opening Statement
- Good Practice Guidelines For Mediators
- The Stages Of Mediation
- Process Outline For Successful Mediations
- Mediation skills and mediating conflict
- So, what is Mediation?
- When Can You Use Mediation
- Managing Your Triggers
- How Great Can You Mediate?
- Five Basic Methods for Resolving Conflict
- Mediation – Conflict in the Workplace